How to Handle a Boyfriend Who Takes You for Granted
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This hub will reveal to you what you should do when your boyfriend takes you for granted. Read on...
It’s no big secret at all. You may have thought about it, but you throw it away because you don’t like thinking about it. But I say, you need courage…and the right reasons to do it.
If your boyfriend is taking advantage of you, making you his doormat or his punchbag, break up with him!
“But I love him”, you say? Well, let’s take a look at why the “love” reason is not even good enough.
Reasons Why Ditching Your Boyfriend (a bad one) Right Now Is A Good Thing
- Love will change everything is a myth. A lot of couples have proven that “love” doesn’t change somebody. Situation does. And it usually involves both of you. For real example, financial get so tough it force both of you to work hard and push him to the limit. Your husband then will only have two choices, repair his habit or surrender and become worse and maybe runaway. You may have him change, but it’s rather 50-50. And before that happens, you also suffer the financial crisis and that’s not the kind of situation you wanna have in your family. Now if you expect that your boyfriend will change as soon as you both get married, you’re wrong! A toddler saying cows drink milk couldn’t be more right than this (it’s water). My conclusion is, if you see a bad habit you can’t deal with when you’re dating, you won’t when you get married to him either. Don’t marry him before he changes for at LEAST a year to make sure!
- Your feeling doesn’t make him “the one”. You like him, fall in love at first sight, your birthday is the same as his, he likes the same color as you do, you both even sneeze at the same time! (okay, maybe I’m exaggerating :) ). But those are not the measurements that he is the man who should be your husband. Who your soulmate is, is your decision! Not by signs. What I’m talking about is, our feeling is often mixed up with our expectation for that particular person. When we see someone is wearing the same t-shirt as we do (plus we’re desperate for a date at the moment), we can’t hold ourselves to not think that there are at least another 10,000 things we will find similar in that person. Be it taste, hobbies, our habits, etc… Wake up! Your decision that the person you’re being with is your soulmate should be the result of months or even years of friendship, knowing each other, going through hard times and not only by mere sight.
- There’s only one man out there for me. Yes it’s true! And you choose which one he is! If you see something’s wrong with the person you’re being with and you don’t want to leave him just because you think that he’s the only one there is for you, you’re like persisting on sending mails using doves instead of Gmail because you believe that Google is reading all our emails. That’s unnecessary and stupid. You’re provided with a much better choice (look for another better man) but you choose the hard way only because of a false myth (nobody wants to be with you except the person you’re with).
Well, I hope that now you have more thoughts on your own future when you decide if you should go on or look for a new relationship. The purpose of this hub is to make you see the values you have within you. Hopefully you will soon have a better judgement of yourself and find no more doubt in choosing the best man to live life.
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princess tiana, if for some time "working at it" doesn't work, you need to leave him and come back only if he becomes a better man.
Maybe it's tough love he needs, not soft love.
i need your advice..
my boyfriend says he can take me for granted because our relationship is so deep that there is no room for small formalities..
i love him a lot,, and he loves me more..
but it does hurt me when he does that.. what should i do..please help... (me and my bf both 24 yrs old)
Hi
there's no reason for someone to take others for granted. Nothing at all...
You need to look into yourself in silence if you trust him. Not because kind words he says or sweet actions he gave you.
One question you can reflect on is "Will you be able have the relationship the way it is now forever?"
If you aren't sure, talk with him about how you feel but don't get angry when he says something you don't expect. Be patient, there may be arguments because you both are still different individuals who have different angles and opinion.
Use common sense but also don't judge. Be neutral and responsible for your own feelings.
I suggest you surrender to God and find someone you think wise to consult your situation further.
Good luck!
This article was helpful for me because I feel overused in my relationship and I don't know what to do... He thinks that when he asks for money, he doesn't have to pay you back unless he says he will and he owes me $20. For lunch at school, he expects me to get him French fries with hot sauce... I wouldn't mind giving it to him because I don't eat the fries, but it still makes me mad because he doesn't appreciate what I do for him. I also feel like his punching bag when he is mad... I understand if he wants his anger out, but he takes it out on me harshly and doesn't apologize for hurting me...
Hi Danie,
I'm sorry to hear your situation. Have you tried talking to him? Tell him that he's hurting you and you'll be happier if he appreciate you more. Either verbally or physically.
If that doesn't work, he'll need to learn tough love. You'll have to leave him. Not hate him, but leave him so that he'll realize his mistakes and take steps to change.
Wait for some time until you see real transformation in his attitude. Meanwhile, you can also develop your personality and expand your relationship.
God bless!
ive tried to talk to him... but when i tell him about one timy thing that shouldnt be a big deal, he snaps at me and i just stop talking to him... but thanks for your help and advice, i really needed it...
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I also have two kids he has never worked and when I questioned him about getting a job he turns it around and say if I don't spend so much then I won't be broke. It hurts my feeling because I'm busting my butt off to support a family of 4.Should I leave him just because he doesn't work? HELP!!!
jenn, hell yeah! You dont need a mooch ! You should support your children, not a man! Find a man who works, and can take care of you for once!
hi i have a br for 1yr now he went through some hard time when his mom lost his apartment i let him live in my apartment he never helped pay a bill and made excuses why he didn't have a job. He would say he was going job searching but would go hang out with his friends. I couldn't support two people and ended up losing my apartment.When I try to talk about the siutation he screams and yells and displays a nasty temper. He say he goning to changes and it's been month and I dont see improvement. I care about him alot, but I know I should be treated better than this. A part of me is scared to leave and I dont know why..advice please
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Hi. I just wanted to write and let you know on Friday 5th the day my spell was being cast my 'very distant' boyfriend called me 5 times and sent me 2 text messages!! I am very excited and will continue to send you updates in the future you are so great wiseindividualspell@gmail.com thank you very much for you help.
When is enough, enough my boyfriend has done everything possible that's bad to me from cheating, putting me down to hitting and the last thing he did was spit in my face I no I should leave some part off me keeps hoping he will change.
princess tiana 2 years ago
my boyfriend is just like that the thing is i dont want to break up with him i want to work at it and what should i do to get him back on track